8 December 2009 (Sex and relationships)
Online dating has become pretty common in recent years. People used to raise their eyebrows if somebody mentioned they met their partner online (evoking images of impulsive trips to middle America, followed by speedy marriages). Nowadays most of us have at least tried virtual dating. Everyone has different experiences and different successes, but there are probably some points that we can all agree on.
First, your profile. How much information should you reveal? In an age where personal information can be easy to find (particularly through social network sites such as Facebook), it is probably a good idea to keep the information on your profile pretty vague. Names, places, and dates can all be used as 'hooks' to uncover a wealth of information about a person, so be careful!
What about a picture? Camera at arms’ length for that deer-in-the-headlights look? Or dig up that picture from a few years ago when you were younger (and thinner)? Or maybe no picture at all? It’s good to be able to see who you’re talking to online, so a clear face picture is probably the way to go. Also, if someone is willing to upload a face picture it is probably a good indication that they are open and potentially willing to meet in person, which is ultimately what most people are looking for.
What about chatting with people? Some people look to spelling and grammar, some people look for a sense of humour - if both are good, it can be a useful indication that the person at the other end of the computer is educated and cares about the way in which they express themselves. If people are evasive when you try to find out more about them, it's probably not worth it. The same goes for endless, one-line replies to your messages. Keep in mind some people have no intention of actually meeting anyone in person.
Finally, meeting people. It’s really importat to be careful. Make sure you find out enough about the person when chatting to them online - this process is not only a good way of finding out if you want to meet, but can also be useful in raising any 'red flags' if strange or inconsistent answers are given. Check out our tips in the Hooking up section, too.
daHawaiian, 9 December 2009
A very valuable blog! Cheers!
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