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Eu-Jin Loh (profile name GingaLuva) has won the Bro Online’s Mystery Pacific Getaway contest! Thanks to Stars Travel and Bro Online Eu-Jin will be spending six nights at the luxurious Sinalei Reef Resort in Samoa. He says he is delighted to have won and has already found someone to take with him. Eu-Jin Loh is this weeks Hottie of the Week!

Congratulations EJ on winning the mystery trip to the Pacific! So who are you taking with you?

I’m bringing along my travel buddy who used to flat with me who has also been Asia over the past few years with me. A third friend who’s a Travel Agent and helped put together the package to Samoa will tag along also. A boyfriend would have been perfect but more the merrier as they say.

What are you planning to do on your holiday?

Relaxing and recharging the old batteries will be first and foremost. It’s been rather stressful at work for the past month. Also trying to even up the t-shirt tan I got in Welly at New Years would be good. Will bring a good bunch of books to keep me away with the fairies since I have recently discovered the joy of reading again. One thing I’d like to try is riding in the sea on horseback. Looking forward to the outdoor shower in our room which will be novel to use.

Say you end up stranded on a deserted island, what three essentials would you want to make sure you had?

Something fun and inflatable, a big swing and a parasail.

If so, is there a difference between the kinds of guy you’d have a date with and the kind of guy you’d have a one night stand with?

I Would be into friends with benefits but never the twain have met. I wear my heart on my sleeve so it’d be very emotionally tiring for me to upkeep relationships that aren’t going anywhere. A guy I’d date would be someone that has a warm, affectionate and gentle nature with a healthy helping of humour. Someone who likes me for me and who engages me on lots of exciting levels. As to wham bams, to be honest I’ve had my share of bad sex and as the line goes in ‘The Good Guy’ – “let’s get the sex over and done with so we can get on to the good stuff”. Hehe However like every ankle-shallow male if some sizzling sex on a stick were to get amorous with me, I’d get out the dirty scrabble board and score some multiple words. lol

Who is your celebrity crush?

Michael Buble is someone I would love to have dinner with and let him serenade me. I’m such a gushy egg but since I saw him in one of his concert DVDs I’ve grown to respect his work ethic and charismatic charm on and off stage. His suave approach is counterpointed by his kooky sense of humour and commendable humility. If only he would come back to NZ as part of his tour but I live in hope with my fellow stalkers. hehe

Can you tell me a bit about how you came out?

In actuality I never officially came out first since my parents had found some incriminating letters in my bedroom and ‘outed’ me when I was about 16yo. I had gotten comfortable with my sexuality as much as you can whilst still in the closet and didn’t put as much effort into hiding any evidence of my double-life at that stage. I was terrified of being kicked out of home with nowhere to turn hence why I had decided to wait till after I left home to tell my parents. They sat me down that night I remember and assailed me with all the scare-mongering about being gay you could ‘shake a stick at’ to dissuade me from a path they considered wrong. That was a very harrowing and exhausting ordeal after a few hours of a one-sided tirade of accusations and blame from my worried parents. They forbade me to contact any of the gay friends I had started to make and kept a tight curfew on me for some time after. At one point they ransacked my bedroom of anything they considered gay when I was away at my friend’s place which seriously caught me off guard and settled me with a deep sense of violation.

My mother was quite religious so that caused a lot of friction and culminated in frequent fights for the following 2 years and having her cry in my arms which was heartbreaking to experience. I had to go through my parents dealing with my sexuality which felt like a step backwards at the time which was frustrating and in the dark moments my thoughts strayed to suicide sometimes but luckily I was too much of a coward to follow through. It didn’t help when my mum discovered religious propaganda by the NZ Exodus group with their “love the sinner, hate the sin” motto and continued to try to convert me back to being straight in hopes of normalizing me.

My brother had overheard us arguing that night and guessed it was about me being gay. I think they all knew beforehand already somehow but didn’t acknowledge it. He just said so long I wasn’t hurting anyone or myself then it was ok with him which brought me closer to my brother than my parents with that show of support.

We kind of came to an understanding of don’t ask, don’t tell in the early years but eventually they stopped fearing my sexuality and just concentrated on me just being their son and being happy which was an acceptable compromise. I don’t think they’d ever be in a PFlag march but you have to be thankful for the little mercies in life that they loved me in their own way although it wasn’t the happy ending I would’ve liked. However for whatever reason, perhaps my mother realised I was hurting and got me to join ALGY – Auckland Lesbian & Gay Youth Group (Rainbow Youth’s predecessor) which I think she might have thought was Christian-based since the guy who took me to the meeting was a Christian. There and then is when my real salvation began as I was welcomed by my gay brothers and sisters and finally knew I wasn’t alone in the world anymore. =]

My real second chance at coming out was in Form 6 at College to my friends in the art common room to some Goths. I remember feeling stunned and anxious when I blurted the words out that I was gay expecting a negative reaction in defence. They took a moment to absorb it and said “so what” since they still liked me as I was and that it was ok. It was a definite sense of a heavy burden lifted from my shoulders and replaced with a new sense of optimism and beginnings of self-pride that others accepted me as I was when my parents didn’t. Thanks Melina & Brandon. =]

I don’t usually volunteer the info that I’m gay but won’t deny if asked. I usually try to get it out in the open like at work so people get their heads around it sooner than later. Keeping my sexuality visible is easier to deal with than walking on eggshells trying to maintain some unnecessary façade. Usually people guess from my mannerisms or behaviour which is a more natural way to come out I think when people have time to process it and approach you if and when they’re ready.

Sorry this section is much longer than the others but it’s quite cathartic to recount the experience and see how far I’ve come to keep going.

It's great to hear how far you've come! What is something unusual that you find attractive in guys?

I like short guys, redheads, napes of necks and eyebrow piercings. Perhaps someone with a Jewish sense of humour or a cute OCD. However the most biggest turn on to a Virgoan like me is just plain old fashioned ‘chivalry’. Having a guy being genuinely polite and considerate towards me is quite the winning move in my eyes. Personal integrity and creativity whether artistic, musical or literary are also drawcards for me.

What are your 5 favourite songs at the moment?

Set It Off – J.Williams / Wild Horses – Susan Boyle / Cruel – Dane Rumble / Speechless – Lady Gaga / Make Her Say – Kid Kudi. And finally,

What is your safe sex slogan?

Don’t cock it till you sock it!? lol