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The idea of anal sex initially turns a lot of people off. And it's not hard to understand why - toilet training is one of the earliest lessons we get, and we get the message that our arse is a dirty, nasty place from before we can talk.

But it's more than that. It's also a place of great horny fun, and most gay men get to know that one way or another. It's sorta weird the taboos that sit around it, because when you stop and think, every sex organ is used to put rubbish out of the body - the vagina and the penis are both used to get rid of waste as well as for fun, and they both need a bit of loving care and attention to keep them attractive. But the arse gets the most bad press.

On the one hand you can see why from a purely practical point of view: if you don't clean yourself out first it isn't that much fun for either party. But a lot of the stigma around it has to do with the idea of a man taking it up the arse. Why? Well, he's taking on the role a woman is "supposed" to have, so he's making himself less of a man. "Fuck you!" is not usually used as a friendly "hello" - it's about showing who's boss. One man fucking another man seems to turn the world upside down for straights.

Straight guys seem either really turned off or totally intrigued by it. I've had so many conversations with straight guys explaining why getting screwed is fun. Yes, it's better if whoever is getting rooted has cleaned out; No, if it's done right it doesn't hurt; Yes, you will have a very intense orgasm; No, it doesn't turn you gay; No, not all gay guys are into it.

But two guys screwing is also an act of real love, care and pleasure. Fucking each other is also a way of making love - and being gay isn't just about sex - it's about men loving men, and getting inside the man you love, or having him inside you, is physically as close as you can get. And of course, use a condom and lube, lots and lots of lube.

And it is fun - lots of fun.

One of the main reasons it is so good physically is because men have a prostate gland, just up and inside our arses. When that's massaged properly it is just fantastic, for both guys. But your prostate needs a little care and attention - September is the month the Prostate Cancer Foundation uses for awareness and fund-raising - you can get prostate cancer - it's good to get your Dr to check it out for you - don't be embarassed, they're used to sticking their fingers up guys' arses - it's part of their job. You owe it to yourself to look after your prostate.

We know that generally guys aren't that good at looking after our health in general, we tough it out, but that's not the best way to do things. Look after your prostate and it'll look after you.